Heit Wedding

Heit Wedding

Heit Wedding

The Call

Being a minister sometimes means serving others on short notice. Friday night I was asked to officiate the wedding of Tammy Carrell and Kenny Heit by my father in law Leonard Wood. He said the couple needed an ordained minister in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma on a short notice. I was happy to help the couple out.

The Marriage

Today before the wedding I shared my heart with Tammy and Kenny about marriage. I told them marriage is not simply a contract, but if it were a contract they would only be responsible for their part of the contract. Let's say that's 50%. If you enter marriage thinking you only have to put in 50% what if your spouse lacks their 50% of the contract on a given day? You then have less then 100% and thus your marriage might fail. Not only is marriage much more than a contract it also does not work with 50% 50%. I believe both spouses should always give 100% and 100% so that if one is not at their best there is still 100% left to fight through the rough time. Inspired by the recent messages at my church, LifeChurch.tv, I told them family is worth fighting for. Remember when things get hard to always fight for your marriage.

It was an honor to share in their special day as they entered the Holy covenant of marriage with God.

5 comments (Add your own)

1. Michelle wrote:
When we were first married 14 years ago, I was mainkg very good money. Except for one brief period, I have been self-employed since my early 20's, (I am now 44). My wife quit working when our first child was born, followed by 2 more. Around 1998, my industry changed dramatically and I had to reinvent my role in it. I went to work for a company in my industry, and had 2 decent years. But the business kept changing very quickly and I was laid off in 2000. We went through 4 years of essentially no income, which almost became unbearable. The stress really built up, and I nearly lost all confidence in myself. Our marriage came under enormous pressure, but the experience proved to me that my wife was definitely with me for better or for worse. In 2005, I finally caught traction in my new role, and 2008 was my best year ever. I am in an industry where turmoil and instability can be beneficial to us, and there are many different ways of mainkg money. I have had moments of guilt in the last year. I feel very badly for the many many individuals and families who are struggling through this period, particularly while we have been doing better. We do not live ostentatiously, and have always been pretty good about saving, which helped to keep us afloat during our lean years. I certainly hope that I never have to go through that again, and I also will never work for anyone else if it is in my power to stay self-employed. I simply do not trust any company or entity, and I feel confident that I can provide for our needs better than a company can.

Fri, October 19, 2012 @ 4:17 PM

2. Jose wrote:
My husband can't haldne stress. At all. In any amount more than what he already incurs at work. That's why I take care of the paying of the bills... at least, I take care of it when I'm not completely overwhelmed by taking care of four children with autism and multiple food allergies. Sometimes I forget to pay a bill and we get phone calls. That makes my husband go absolutely ballistic and start yelling at me and the kids.When times get tough and we have to cut back spending, there are a lot more problems at our house. The autistic kids don't like change, and my husband won't eat if I don't cook what he likes to eat. Every little thing (like why we are having a meatless dinner tonight or why we are not buying crackers even though we are out of them) sets off a whole cascade of interrogation. I have to explain over and over that this is our dinner, no you can't have the snack you wanted to eat, no we are out of string cheese until payday because you gave it all away to your friends and we are not getting any more. It feels like I spend half my day explaining these things, week in and week out. It drives me so insane that I honestly would rather work harder to just buy the damn string cheese (even though I'm already stressed to the point where my body is breaking down) than hear all the whining.

Fri, October 19, 2012 @ 9:50 PM

3. Chena wrote:
my husband and I have been Married for 12 yrs and have 3 clehdrin. Before the reccesion started, we had decided that he needed to finish school for several reasons, so we decided that he would stay at home with the kids and finish school.On that note, I am responsible for supporting the family. I don't mind becasue i love my husband, but I was a Construction Accountant when all of this started. I had just switched to that industry from Public Accounting. I am not degreed, but have been in the industry for 13yrs now, and have some college.We are haveing trouble because the stress is getting to me and we keep sinking further and further down. We are not in credit card debt, our house wasn't priced unreasonably, but we are on government assistance and my husband and I have no medical coverage, and I have potentially serious medical conditions that are going untreated. With all of the stress on us (especailly with finals this week), We are haveing a few issues. We can only cut back so much and it was hard before the recession. I have had to change jobs twice already because of doors closing which is making me feel like a curse to business owners.Bottom line, is I am tired, I want to get medical coverage, and I want to not worrie for a while about if I can make the mortgage or not (started getting behind again). I feel desperate, abandoned, and incapable of taking care of my family for the first time in years.

Fri, October 19, 2012 @ 10:21 PM

4. Jaclyn wrote:
I was raelly confused, and this answered all my questions.

Fri, October 19, 2012 @ 11:42 PM

5. Ivanov wrote:
Ann - Each of these redheaded betuaies has a wonderful personality all of their own and you've captured them all in your photographs so perfectly. Thank goodness I don't have to choose which one I like the best! Beautiful ..all beautiful.

Tue, June 9, 2015 @ 5:29 PM

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